Togtan says that women should show respect to the elders and deities of their husbands’ clans. Women should always wear a headscarf and socks in front of their in-laws. It is forbidden for them to wear trousers or call their husbands’ elder relatives by their first names. Women are also expected to wake up first in the morning, make tea and do the household chores. When Togtan got married, her mother gave her instructions as to how to behave in her husband’s household. As advised, Togtan woke up early in the morning, milked the cows, and looked after the livestock. Then she made tea and put a cup on the altar.