Lyalya says that Kalmyk matchmaking has several stages during which the parents of the betrothed get acquainted with each other and discuss the wedding. During the wedding on the bride’s side, the groom’s delegation is met and welcomed by children. Once inside the house, the groom is seated on a special chair, but for this he has to ‘pay’ to the bride’s people. Women from the bride’s side give the groom’s delegation the so-called ‘bride’s pillow’ for which the groom’s side need also to pay.