Sofia Lidzhi-Goryaeva, Rules and Prohibitions

Abstract

Sofia learnt many rules, traditions, and folk sayings from her mother. Sofia says that people should treat their home with respect. For example, when entering a house, one should try not to touch the doorstep with their foot. In the past when the Kalmyks lived in yurts, they took off their hats when entering a yurt. There are the following prohibitions inside the house: it is forbidden to whistle, cross one’s hands, and hold hands behind the back. Guests should be offered a cup of tea (with sweets and biscuits). Traditionally, when a new bride enters the house of her husband, she is given a new name by her parents-in-law. For example, if the bride was called Tsagan (White) she could be called Gilyan (Fair). Brides are not supposed to call their in-laws by their names. During celebrations, the first cup of tea should be offered to the oldest man. Sofia says that many traditions are not being followed, partly because the Kalmyks have forgotten their language.