Dzhidzha talks about funerary rituals, her mother’s funeral and her dreams. This is her story: It is believed that after death, a person’s soul ends up in a pure world where there are no lies. By contrast, this world is full of deception and people constantly cheat each other. In the past, Kalmyk funerary ritual was as follows. Kalmyks went to a lama to ask about the exact date and time of the removal of the deceased from the house for burial and the direction in which to put his/her head. There were three possible directions, including east, south or west. My mother told me that Kalmyks buried their dead wrapped in cloth. Whilst ordinary people were wrapped in any cloth, lamas and knowledgeable people were wrapped in a white cloth and buried in a sitting position. Only men were allowed to go to a burial place. By contrast, today anyone can go to a cemetery, since we have forgotten our customs. My mother told me that, ‘On the 49th day after death you do a memorial service. After that you should not even look in the direction of the cemetery. It is a sin for you (a girl) to go to a cemetery. If one goes there often, the deceased may think that that person wishes to give something’. Only during Tsagan Sar can people offer food, including vodka and a piece of meat, to their deceased relatives. I listened to my mother’s advice. 10 years after her death, I went to a lama named Rinchen Dagva. I told him, ‘I have brought some food for my late mother, but I did not go to her grave as she had told me not to.’ He looked at his texts, thought for a while and said, ‘She was right. Do not go to her cemetery’. Since then I stopped seeing my mother in my dreams. The last dream about her was as follows. I saw my mother and two younger sisters, who died in Siberia. I followed three of them into a big house. After, they disappeared under a big canopy. All of a sudden, a fair-faced girl came out. I asked her, ‘Where did those three go?’, to which she replied, ‘You go through this gate. Inside there is another gate’. I stood thinking what to do. I felt unwell and woke up. I think my late sisters must have taken my mother with them to Siberia. My mother and I buried them there in the summer.