Developing highly enhanced plasmonic nanocavities allows direct observation of light-matter interactions at the nanoscale. With DNA origami, the ability to precisely nanoposition single-quantum emitters in ultranarrow plasmonic gaps enables detailed study of their modified light emission. By developing protocols for creating nanoparticle-on-mirror constructs in which DNA nanostructures act as reliable and customizable spacers for nanoparticle binding, we reveal that the simple picture of Purcell-enhanced molecular dye emission is misleading. Instead, we show that the enhanced dipolar dye polarizability greatly amplifies optical forces acting on the facet Au atoms, leading to their rapid destabilization. Using different dyes, we find that emission spectra are dominated by inelastic (Raman) scattering from molecules and metals, instead of fluorescence, with molecular bleaching also not evident despite the large structural rearrangements. This implies that the competition between recombination pathways demands a rethink of routes to quantum optics using plasmonics.